by Terry | 6:07 pm

                 

In one of my last articles I briefly touched on love. I would like to expand on that subject here. What love is, and what it is not. How to tell the difference between love and an imposter, or impersonator. How to identify if you show someone you love them. A lot of people now days go on wondering if they are loved. Not knowing or ever learning about love.

So let’s begin with love, by looking at what the bible says on the subject, by looking to God’s example so that we can truly see what love is.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 New King James Version (NKJV)

4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not [a]puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, [b]thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 New International Version (NIV)

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

The Break Down

So let’s break this down verse by verse, seeking the truth of what love is. Love suffers long it does not react with anger or venom. Even if you are hurt by those you love you will not want them to be hurt.

It is kind in all situations regardless of circumstances. It does not envy or want to take for itself. If you love someone you put them above yourself. Love is putting someone else’s needs and wants before your own. It is not puffed up, and does not instill pride.

It does not  behave rudely or or spiteful. It is not selfish, it is selfless, not wanting for itself it is wanting for other first, and yourself last. It is not provoked, not getting angry easily.

It does not delight in evil but rejoices in truth seeking and finding the truth recognizing truth when they see it.

Love protects, trust, hopes,and preserves. Love never fails prophecies, tongues and knowledge fail.

God’s Example

God sent his son Jesus Christ to the cross to take our sins upon himself. Fulfilling God’s law making it so we can have a relationship with God through Jesus Christ.

He sent Jesus to die on the cross for us so that we could have a relationship with him. Not just as Creations and God but so we could call him Father. He wanted to be more than just to be our God.

He wanted a relationship with us, he did not need one, but wanted one. He wants to show us love, Jesus Christ is the best example of God’s love, mercy and grace.

What Love is Not

Love is not sex, it is not easy, it is not convenient, it is not abusive or an emotion.

Sex

Sex has long been in the human mind, the best way to express love. I tell you now it is not love. It has nothing to do with love. The reason God gave us sex was to follow his commandment to go and multiply. So we could have dominion over the earth.

That is the only reason God gave it to us. While it is to reproduce is should not be an example of love. You can have sex without loving someone. This is a reason why I say it is not love.

Easy

Loving someone is not easy. We as humans have it in our head that love is easy. That we don’t have problems with the people we love. That we all of a sudden have perfect communications with our mate.

This is not the case I assure you. Love is not supposed to be easy. We have problems communicating with everyone, our families, and our friends.

Communication is something we all have issues with. We all need constant work on communicating with others.  

Constantly trying and working toward understanding one another.   

Convenient

Love is not convenient to only love those who are close by and who seem easy to love is not love. A lot of times we we have to go out of our way for the people we love.

It is good to go out of the way for someone you love. It shows that you really love them. Think on how special you feel when someone comes to check on you, or takes time to go out of their way for you.  

Abusive

Being abusive is not love. The problem here is kids are raised in homes where one or both parents are abusive. They learn and think that the abuse is love. From that point they expect to be abused.

When they enter into a relationship that they are not abused in they think that it is not a good relationship. When we abuse each other our children, our legacy are the ones that suffer.

In JROTC when I was in high school we had a saying. “If you see a problem and do not fix it, you set a new standard.” Is this the standard we want to set, for our children and our society? We can fix this by teaching children that are in abusive homes what love really is. Even if that is the least that we can do.

Emotion

Love is not an emotion, we as a society think love is a feeling, the truth is it is not a feeling. Emotions are temporary they are constantly in motion, and constantly changing.

We know from the bible the characteristics of love. Love cannot be an emotion. Due to the nature of emotions, so then what is love.

Love is

Love is an action, it being kind showing you love to another being. I have used my aunt as an example with the story of how she tied my uncles shoes.

She tied his shoes not because he could not do it himself but because she loved him wanted to be kind and loving to him.

Let us look at our own actions toward the people we love. Self examine ourselves to determine who we love by the way we act towards them. Not by how we feel. Love is going to visit every now and again.

Love is your action towards another. That is what love is, Do you agree, do you disagree? Leave a comment below let me know your opinion.

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Comments

Danny King

Wonderful article but I must disagree on one point. You said “Sex has long been in the human mind, the best way to express love. I tell you now it is not love. It has nothing to do with love. The reason God gave us sex was to follow his commandment to go and multiply. So we could have dominion over the earth.

That is the only reason God gave it to us. ”
Many well-meaning Christians have believed this over the years. But there is a verse that counters it:
1 Corinthians 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
This is talking about sex. But not reproductive sex. It is love sex. SelfLESS sex. Making sure your partners needs are met, ignoring your own. This type of sex is superior, more satisfying, but many couples never even try it. It is love.
While being TOTALLY respectful of Rachel, I know you as a couple experience this, due to her physical difficulties, as well as your future child.
I am not trying to correct you, but those who read this article need to have this spelled out. Otherwise, it is quite possibly your BEST.
Thank you for continuing this site in spite of the cost to you. It is important.

Wonderful article but I must disagree on one point. You said “Sex has long been in the human mind, the best way to express love. I tell you now it is not love. It has nothing to do with love. The reason God gave us sex was to follow his commandment to go and multiply. So we could have dominion over the earth. That is the only reason God gave it to us. ”
Many well-meaning Christians have believed this over the years. But there is a verse that counters it:
1 Corinthians 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
This is talking about sex. But not reproductive sex. It is love sex. SelfLESS sex. Making sure your partner’s needs are met, ignoring your own. This type of sex is superior, more satisfying, but many couples never even try it. It is love.
While being TOTALLY respectful of Rachel, I know you as a couple experience this, due to her physical difficulties, as well as your future child.
I am not trying to correct you, but those who read this article need to have this spelled out. Otherwise, this one is quite possibly your BEST.
Thank you for continuing this site in spite of the cost to you. It is important!

Dec 29.2018 | 01:38 pm

    Terry

    That was the point of the article. I was saying it is human perception that turn sex into love. That it was wrong to think of sex as love that is the main point i was trying to make.I apologize for not being clear in my point but that is exactly the point i was trying to make.

    Dec 30.2018 | 04:45 pm

Craig

I really enjoyed this article on love.It needs to be a daily reminder for me.As an imperfect human selfishness often shines through and yet the bibles guide on what love is served as a reminder to what I inspire to.Thank you

Mar 05.2019 | 05:28 am

    Terry

    That the truth of us all we need reminders daily. We should all look to his example Thank you for the comments.

    Mar 05.2019 | 05:44 am

Tolu

Thanks Terry for this edifying post on love. Love is one if not the most wrongly used word in history. We hear people use the word carelessly everyday. From the passage you listed in 1 Corinthians 13, it shows what true and God’s love is. love is kind, does not have it way, not envious, nor rude. It is God that can help a person to love unconditionally, men love with condition. you mention something about sex, that i disagree with. Sex is not primarily for procreation, sex is one of the way couples can bond together. What do you think?

Mar 05.2019 | 05:29 am

    Terry

    While it does bond a husband and wife. People now days try to bond with sex alone. Sex is NOT made for showing love it was made for procreation. While i see your point if sex was a bonding force more people would stay together now days. Instead we see the opposite people having sex and children together then leaving. So if sex is something that bounds us together then what is up. 

    Instead marriage is looked down on by society.When the whole point in marriage is to form a covenant between God and two people. In my opinion Marriage has more bounding power than sex ever will. Thank you for your comment and the question. Did i answer you question or do i need to clarify.

    Mar 05.2019 | 05:38 am

Tarun

with the lent season beginning, I find this post very appropriate! the world has lost its way when it comes to loving its neighbour! everyone claims that people should be more considerate but its gone to the extreme that anything you say offends someone somehow!

If people learn to love each other for just the way they are and accept them like they would except the grumpy uncle or the crazy aunt…then world would be a much better place

Mar 05.2019 | 06:17 am

    Terry

    So true if only we would let the love of christ shine trough our daily lives. 

    Mar 05.2019 | 06:19 am

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